I have a picture of my father’s burnt bones on a slab. And not one of just the two of us together in the past 15 years.
I’m going to tell you a specifically Filipino thing they do after they do the first firing of a cremation and before they grind down the bones to put in the urn. They offer to have you go look through and check for green bones as a symbol of luck, and I’ve seen an uncle keep some of his mom’s green bones for a while before they buried it with the rest of the urn. So after they put him in the oven and before the final processing, our family went to see what was left of him on a slab and the adults (mom and the aunts and uncles) checked for the green. My aunt told me to snap a photo, and now it’s in the group chat.
How absurd is that. What am I supposed to do with that photo, and not a single fucking one of the two of us together?
I don’t know how to deal with this.
