In Stephen Chobsky’s The Perks of Being a Wallflower, there is a quote that says: “We accept the love we think we deserve.” And if you know me personally, you’ve probably heard this from me once or twice.
I believe that nobody picks the person they fall in love with, it just happens. Whether it’s right, illegal, painful, or perfect, the feelings we get for a person is not a choice. The initial spark, the incredible chemisty, connections we have with people, whether they’re appropriate, just happen.
But I think what we choose to do with these feelings are a choice.
Do you continue loving a person that abuses your love, who breaks your trust?
Do you pursue someone already committed to someone else if they don’t exactly reject you?
Love is not a choice, but everything else is.
What you do with your feelings, what you choose to accept from the person you love, you can’t blame anyone else for it, because it was your decision.
You chose to go into a relationship because you’ve never felt this way before, even if you know that this will ultimately cause you problems with your family.
You chose to go into a “relationship” with a married man, because he’s told you that you’re the love of his life, but will not leave his wife for you because he’s scared that she might take away his kids.
That is your choice.
We choose the people we see everyday, who we talk to, who we spend our precious free time with, with what we think we deserve.
So my question today for you, my dear reader: Do you think you deserve the love you have today?