• Jodythinks,  Love/Life,  Songs to listen to

    I think you should listen to Lany’s ILYSB (Stripped) today

    Simply because it’s damn sexy. And I don’t say that about a lot of new songs since I am an oldie that likes songs that even my parents were too young to like. But this song is just breathy and simple and I can’t get enough of it. Here are a few lines from the song: Ain’t never felt this way Can’t get enough so stay with me It’s not like we got big plans Let’s drive around town holding hands Mad warm when you get close…to me Slow dance these summer nights Our disco ball’s my kitchen light And even if it sounds sexy the lyrics are pretty innocent.…

  • Jodythinks,  Love/Life,  Work

    What motivates you?

    I’ve been reading a lot of motivational things lately. If you know me personally, you know that I’m not a person that reads self-help books a lot, or attend those workshops or necessarily believe in the theoretical versus the actual. I tell people I’m very grounded in reality, which sometimes can come off as cynical. Maybe it’s because of what’s happened to me in the past, or sometimes I’m just being over cautious to the point of paranoid. I’m trying to see things more positively. I’m trying to be less sarcastic and cynical. There is just too much reality sometimes trying to grind us down to nubs and it’s not…

  • Gratitude,  Jodythinks,  Love/Life

    You lucky SOB

    I catch myself complaining a lot, and 2018 was not a year that I was very positive about a lot of things. When life threw me for a loop, I bitched and moaned about it. A lot. And I can recognize venting and mourning loss, but I also have to acknowledge what a lucky son of a Barbie (I won’t curse at my mother today) I am. In 2018: I got to be there a lot more for what turned out to be our Nanay’s last year.  I spent a lot of times with my friends, and made a few new ones. I finally got to deal with my health,…

  • Gratitude,  Jodythinks,  Love/Life

    Merry Christmas Nanay

    Dear Nanay, We were all home and got to spend Christmas together (except for Ann but you know she’s committed to the thing). We ate a bunch of things. Ninong taught most of us a game. The fathers drank whiskey, the kids (is it still kids if no one is younger than 21?) drank bottles of sweet wine. You were still part of the raffle, and actually got to the end, but lost out to Joannaman. I bet if you did win you’d give it to us anyway like the year you did win the top prize. Almost all the kids give gifts now so it took a good 15…

  • Gratitude,  Jodythinks,  Love/Life

    Saying goodbye

    Another month, another wake. This time though, I am not the one offering my condolences but one of the people being offered theirs, because our family lost our Nanay. She wasn’t young at 89. She had already outlived all other grandparents by at least 5 years. It wasn’t a surprise, as she had been in the hospital for around a month, and we had known when they found a mass that it wasn’t going to be long. We couldn’t go for treatment because of her age and already existing health issues, and we had resigned to just making her feel comfortable. We say it’s a blessing to have her out…

  • Cheese,  Gratitude,  Jodythinks,  Love/Life,  Thanks

    Can I keep you?

    Lately I’ve been thinking about loss. With my sister and a friend going to wakes one day after the other, another terrible number up on this year’s wake count, I cannot help but think of who we can keep. Honestly, I am quite lucky, my parents are both here and generally healthy (I say generally because they are not perfectly there but that’s another conversation entirely). I got time with both grandmothers and one grandfather. My mom’s siblings are all thriving. Cousins are intact and can be direct messaged or sent embarassing videos at any time. Friends who’ve stayed are those who are amazing (and even saw me through my…

  • Gratitude,  Love/Life

    Hug your fathers

    Yesterday, two more people in my circle lost their dads. TWO MORE. 2018 has been such a rollercoaster of emotions but I think seeing people I love lose their fathers has been the most heart wrenching of them all. Too many funerals, too many tears shed, too many Christmases that will be forever changed now that they’re gone. I had a draft penned, a letter about a fat shaming person in my circle but it all seems so trivial now. Today, and for the rest of the week, I will mourn with my friends of their loss. So if you still have a dad, hug them today. I never hug…

  • Gratitude,  Jodythinks,  Love/Life

    How we deal with privilege (or lack of it)

    Lately I’ve been thinking about privilege. Privilege, from my understanding, is an advantage you’ve been given, one that is not afforded by a lot of the population. There are a lot out there, mostly given through birth and/or timing. A friend jokes about this a lot with another, when there is talk of politics, especially in the US. Race is a privilege we can only be birthed into, the rest, I do think we can acquire. Wealth and beauty are privileges that some people come into naturally, and the ones that can be most fleeting. Age can wreak havoc on one’s appearance, and wealth can easily be spent away if…

  • Jodythinks,  Love/Life

    Lessons in patience and control

    Being in physical therapy for having a bum knee has been teaching me a lot in patience. In as much as I am a fan of just getting the quick fix, this knee thing isn’t going away soon and I have to have a lot of patience and self control in order to get it done. First off, it takes at least an hour and a half of my day just getting there, and since I don’t want to drive and park for myself to somewhere that takes (supposedly) two short jeepney rides, it takes some self control in being patient with the irresponsible driving and over waiting that taking…

  • Gratitude,  Jodythinks,  Love/Life

    We miss you AB

    As I am still reeling in the news of Anthony Bourdain’s passing, I am again rereading his books. While we the fans mourn and try to find answers, I think we should just be happy of what he was able to share with the world, the happiness he gave us and how we were all able to experience just a bit of him with his writing, hosting, cooking, and all the other things he’s given to the world. I guess what I’m trying to say is not to focus on how his life ended but how his life touched others. His works will not fade if we continue to explore,…